What you see is what you get

How often do you hear yourself saying things like:

• “I have to do this work in order to make a living.”
• “I’d love to be doing X (your passion or purpose) but I need to do Y in order to pay the bills.”
• “I wish I had a great relationship, but that can’t happen because XYZ.”
• “I need more money, but…”
• “I’d give anything to be healthier, but…?”

I’m here to tell you that what you see is what you get.

What does this mean?

What you say is what you See

It means that the things you say become the things you see. They become your reality.

The thoughts you keep repeating and feed with your emotional seal of approval are the blueprints that attract, repel and shape your circumstances.

The problems is that most of us have a huge disconnect between what we say, think, feel and do and our circumstances.

Why is that?

Most of us were not taught to understand the consequences of our acts. As children, we were trained in two schools of no-consequence.

The “spoiled” child: This child is not allowed to suffer the consequences of her actions because her parents ignore those consequences to palliate her. In other words, she has no guidance.

The controlled child: this child is not allowed to suffer the consequences of her actions because her parents protect her from or restrict her ability to make choices. Again, there is no guidance.

To learn consequences as children, we need to have been given the freedom to make mistakes and learn from them. Our parents needed to give us age-appropriate leeway to make choices and then help us understand the consequences of these choices. This is the laboratory where we learn to make wise choices. This is how we learn freedom.

Since most of us were not given this freedom, but instead inducted into a consensus trance of how to act and punished if we did not act like that, is it a wonder that we now live as if life was happening to us and we had no choices?

We believe that:

• We have to do what we learned to do.
• What we want is less important than what we were told we had to do.
• What we dream is less real than what we are used to experiencing.
• Our goals can only be done in the ways in which everybody else is doing it.

Those beliefs place us in an impossible situation, where we are compelled to keep doing what we do not want, what does not work and what has been already proven NOT to work to reach our goals. That is a blueprint for failure.

We also believe that:

• We must succeed to prove our worth, but we should not take risk because that is not prudent.
• Embracing the freedom to do and be what we want, which is unfamiliar and new, is reckless and rigged with danger.

These beliefs steal our freedom and our power as creators and co-creators of life. We are instead left with obedience. We follow the herd, do as told and give away our power to the consensus trance.

These beliefs create an Inner War between our “should” and our “could” and between our “needs” and our “wants.”

And this is the core operation behind out constant “Yes, but” statements.

What we could do is sequestered by what we should do, according to our learned beliefs. It takes awareness, courage and change to free yourself from this Inner War.

What we need (our survival) is seen as threatened by what we want (our happiness, freedom and potential). We fight against our soul and imagination, against our very Essence to preserve our safety. Then we feel unsatisfied, cowardly and insufficient. This leads to addictive behavior, which is a placebo or a pain killer. But the disease is growing under that anesthetic.

How to change this?

Here are the four things you can do, in that order~ to dismantle this Inner War and become the creator of your life.

1. Claim back your language.
2. Own your thoughts and beliefs.
3. Take Free-choices
4. Identify as the creator

Want more? Read the long version of this article here:

http://mariamar.com/2014/12/four-steps-to-create-the-life-you-want-in-the-new-year/

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