ARTspiration No. 36:
Know when you are playing victim
“Most of us do not recognize when we are playing Victim. Clue: do you perceive that your reality is limited, that you can’t “get out”, that there is no solution? You are seating in the place of the Victim. Shift and you’ll find a solution.” Maria Mar
The reason we don’t even stop to check is that most of us have the false belief that only “weak, powerless” people are playing victims. We look at people who do not improve their conditions, do not get over whatever happened to them or keep blaming others and point to them. “That’s playing victim.” But we believe that if we are strong, powerful, independent, self-reliable and self-responsible; if we are doing something about it; then we are not playing victim.
The truth is that we all play victim. It is not about being weak or powerless. It is about bumping against a learned limitation that sets us back into an old small neighborhood or activates a Wounded Self. It’s like stepping into a zone that takes you back to the past.
The problem is that we do not recognize it because it’s not congruent with our adult self. That’s when we believe that is a situation, person or “real” setback —not us– that is creating the limitation. And that’s exactly when we are seating in the place of the Victim!
Best to take some time to check those three criteria in the ARTspiration No. 36 instead of dismissing the possibility.
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