Jan 182016
 
Do you hurt for your friend like this?

Is this you?
Do you hurt for your friend like this?
When women repel success
Every few months I meet her and the minute she sees me her eyes light with a paradoxical mix of hope and desperation.
As she walks towards me I ask myself “Will this be the time?”
She barely says hi. She dives into a stream of complaints. You know that string. That’s how your friend goes on and on about what she really, really wants to do instead of the boring or grueling job she now has.
You hear it every time you gals meet. You try to help her, but any suggestion you give is met with a “Yes, but…”
After a while you get it that she is resisting to take any action on her own behalf, so all you can do is seat there patiently, listening to the streams of complains, wishes and dreams that you know will never happen.
You listen because you love your friend. But for that same reason, it hurts like hell and you go home with a broken heart.
If that has happened to you, then […]

Aug 062015
 
Drowning in Overwhelm-No Time for Friends?

Drowning in Overwhelm:
No Time for Friends?
 

It’s been a while since my last post. I had to take a break from posting seven days a week. As I gave myself that space to finish my novel and catch up with projects that were dragging, I also took time to be with friends.
That’s when I heard it for the first time. “I’m drowning” I’m too overwhelmed to deal with anything else” “I’m too busy to be with my friends.” It suddenly hit me…
The way of friendship is changing.
It’s not a change I like at all.
People are so busy that they can hardly take time to be with their friends.
I realized that in years past I would talk on the phone with my friends almost every day. I’d see them almost every week. I knew what was going on in their lives. We share our pain and our pleasure. We were there for each other’s ordeals.
And now, the phone rarely rings with a call from a friend.
It’s beyond ironic. It’s tragic that now that we have email, we rarely write each […]

Jun 022015
 
Naysayers, Haters, Mirrors and Messengers

Naysayers, Haters, Mirrors and Messengers
The other day I was watching a video by Jeff Walker. I love this person! He shines with authenticity and love, and he says it as it is. You can watch the video here.
I warn you that this is a long post, but if you offer or want to offer your gifts to the world, or if you have been held back by the fear of criticism, I promise that it is worth your while to read.
I agree with Jeff that one of the things that is holding many of us back is the fear of being rejected, judged, criticized and even “crucified” by others; especially by our loved ones ~but also by influential people or large groups.
That fear of criticism is like a barb-wire fence that blocks many paths to success, especially among women and Spiritual Creatives.
We all have been the victims of that horrific infestation: Gossip. We know what that does. It spreads like toxic gas even before you get to a place, and when you enter everyone is looking at you […]

Apr 192015
 
My Novel

Enter the Magic!

Discover the shamanic secrets in the Law of Attraction and other Dream Laws that allowed author-shaman Maria Mar to go from having lost everything she had… even the clothing in her back… to creating dozens of books and products and sharing her gifts with the world.

Find out the little known Sacred Feminine Wisdom that took Maria from finding herself homeless and feeling a failure to creating a business that allows her to do what she loves while serving humanity.

All this practical and spiritual tools for building dreams and demolishing obstacles are embedded in this delightful story that will inspire and transform you.

Watch a 4 minute Book Tour Video.
Angelina is at the edge of giving up on her talents to follow an average formula for success. Just then her desperate soul summons a magical being who detours the train. Will Angelina trust this guide and save her dream? Or will she continue to her planned destination, missing her great destiny?
“Angelina and the Law of Attraction (A Woman’s Ride from her Pressing Problems to her Brightest Potential)” is an […]

Mar 312015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living: Day 6: Deadlines

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 6: Deadlines

This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here. Get Day 4: Judgment here. Get Day 5: Povertizing here.

 
If you know how long it takes you to do something, you have a delivery date.
If you don’t know, lie to yourself or make yourself the prisoner of time, you have deadlines.
The name says it all: by the time you finish, you are dead.

Deadlines are a perception or interpretation of delivery dates that makes them artificial, aggressive, rigid and often downright insane.

Few industries truly need this. Newspapers were one of the industries were deadlines were part of the trade, but even they are disappearing today.

However, our entire culture has an addiction to deadlines and often creates unnecessary stress pushing towards these constructs.

As we talked in Day 2 about Rushing, if you create good systems and manage your time well, you can honor delivery dates without creating stress pushing yourself to meet deadlines.
But if you […]

Mar 242015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 5: Povertizing

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 5: Povertizing

This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here. Get Day 4: Judgment here.

 
Povertization is the act of creating the conditions by which a sector of a population –let’s say women– are and stay poor.
Povertizing yourself as I use it in this series has to do with learned limiting beliefs that come out of your own early –or cultural– experience with money and that keep you from achieving financial freedom. It is one of the most powerful and pervasive forms of stress in one’s life and work.

Povertizing is the secret denial of money, wealth and financial freedom that we embed in our priorities, choices, interpretations and practices.

Povertizing may take the form of splitting what you love to do from how you earn your money, so that you have to work more to get money.
It may take the form of not maximizing the income you can get from what you do.
It may also be seen […]