May 262019
 
What Defensive Reactions Cost to your Success

Reading Time: 9 minutes

After more than 20 years working with spiritual, creative women in the areas of empowerment, success and manifestation, I have a wealth of observations about what helps and what hinders our fulfillment.

Today I want to talk about one of those things that hinders our success ~though our intention is to protect our beautiful essence and precious talents. I’m going to request that you keep an open heart and mind because this is delicate topic which can bring out defensiveness or a quick “that’s not me” reaction that could lead you to missing something valuable.

I’m risking entering these deep waters because what I’m going to dive into is essential in our ability to grow our business, share our gifts and succeed. My intention is to open a space of exploration where we can examine if, how, when or with whom we tend to respond in ways that hinder our success and to practice a shift in our response that opens new horizons for our growth, empowerment and success.

Break free of the fences in your mind that keep you trapped in the […]

Apr 202019
 
When Kindness Wars with Self-forgiveness

Reading Time: 7 minutes

When Kindness Wars with Self-forgiveness

I want to share this with you, my beautiful magical sister or brother ~my worse moment this week~ because it was agonizing and I feel that you could relate.

I found myself at war between kindness and self-forgiveness.
I had not responded as kindly and compassionately as I could have done —in hindsight, of course.

“I really really messed this up!”

The person had withdrawn and I could feel that I had not
been as receptive as she needed and as a consequence, she did not feel trust
enough to share any further.

Had I damaged her trust? Would she now curl inwardly and
avoid others? Would she not seek help? Did she feel judged? The questions
tumbled over each other, each making me feel worse and worse.

I was heavily challenged to forgive myself for this mistake,
and I was surprised at the level of distress running through me.

Wrapped in self-judgment, blaming, shaming and dread.

The Shift

 I thought I had already
gone through this. A bunch of years ago, I spent an entire year rewiring my
habit of self-flagellating myself every single time I made a mistake.

I […]

Apr 192019
 
Healing with the Trees

Reading Time: 4 minutes

In the year 2000 I lost my home and almost all my possessions to some kind of infestation that no expert could define or address. Two weeks of sleepless nights can feel like a lifetime of distress, and I was left with exhaustion and allergies. When I landed on a friend’s guest room, I barely had energy to get up. All I could do was look out the window.

Fortunately, there was a beautiful tree grove right out of that window. So throughout the winter I sat and meditated with the trees.

Trees dance with light, wind, birds and life. They teach us the dance of stillness.

I watched the play of light and shadows changing the color of the leaves. I watched little birds sing and mighty hawk hunt. I forgot that I was in Manhattan, right in the middle of a noisy New York.

I delighted in the wet, radiant leaves after the rain and suddenly realized that it was not just my delight. I was feeling the delight of the trees! I had connected to the Trees.

In a matter of […]

Apr 092019
 
Dancing in the Light

Reading Time: 10 minutes

Dancing in the Light

Shamanic Short Story

Maria Mar

She had a twin brother and she was so grateful for him because he was her shield, her protector, her hero.

Melissa was petite and delicate while Marshal was tall and athletic.

She had honey-brown straight hair while Marshal’s hair was a curly bold red-auburn.

The only thing that was identical in these twins was their golden eyes.

It had not always been like this, however

When Melissa was 9 years old, Marshal and her were identical but for their genders.

Her hair was more fiery at that time. It shone under the sun as she played in the fields.

They played together climbing trees and seeking adventures in the forest around their home, and she was pretty strong. Her legs were muscular. Her wrists were strong and she could open any stubborn jar lid easily, just like Marshal.

They loved to run along the shores, swim in the ocean and collect shells.

“The power of the ocean is dancing inside this shell,” Melissa would declared.

“I can feel the dance of the universe,” Marshall would whisper, for he loved dance.

“You are like […]

Mar 302019
 
Do you like fantasy stories but detest war, violence and apocalypses?

Reading Time: 5 minutes

Once Upon a Time…

It all starts with the story

Angelina & the Law of Attraction Shamanic Fantasy

Angelina holds tightly to her big bag (where she carries her secret) while she waits for the “N” train that will take her to a new corporate job. Meanwhile, her soul is wilting and summons a magical guide~ the whimsical Dragonfly Lady~ who detours the train. Will Angelina catch the Dream Express into her Dream Destination or will she miss her destiny while she stubbornly sticks to a success track that steals her gifts and cripples her purpose?

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Are you a spiritual, creative woman (or out-of-the-box man) who loves fantasy but hates the violence, apocalyptic tendencies and wars of many fantasy stories?

I totally relate! When I read, I want to experience something that enriches my life, uplifts my vibration and expands my wisdom. I’m not one to read just to escape. In fact, if everything is forced to be perfect, I find it boring. But neither do I want to bring a world worst than the one I’m […]

Mar 112019
 
Women and Visibility: No. 2:  The Invisible Self

Reading Time: 26 minutes

How can you be visible to others when you are keeping yourself invisible to yourself?

The series of Women
and Visibility is a journey through the challenges women in the 21st
Century face in our path to fulfillment or when we want to share our gifts,
embody our purpose or live our brilliance. In any of these instances, being
visible is a necessity. But being visible elicits potent fear in women. This
series is my attempt to describe why and to explore ways in which we can
address this challenge so that we can free our radiance, unfold our potential
and express our genius.

In Article 1: “The Hunger that Devours our Visibility,” we address the hunger that both, pulls us towards becoming visible and sabotages our capacity to be visible.

In this article, I want to explore the underbelly of women’s invisibility: when we are invisible to ourselves.

When we are invisible to ourselves.River Shapeshifter: Digital collage by Maria mar(c)

Lights off Center

In the first article I referred to a ceremonial performance
I did last year for an audience of change-makers, artists and activists.

The venue was an amazing cultural cafe that […]