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Do you hurt for your friend like this?

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Jan 182016
 
Do you hurt for your friend like this?

Reading Time: 4 minutes Is this you? Do you hurt for your friend like this? When women repel success Every few months I meet her and the minute she sees me her eyes light with a paradoxical mix of hope and desperation. As she walks towards me I ask myself “Will this be the time?” She barely says hi. She dives into a stream of complaints. You know that string. That’s how your friend goes on and on about what she really, really wants to do instead of the boring or grueling job she now has. You hear it every time you gals meet. You try to help her, but any suggestion you give is met with a “Yes, but…” After a while you get it that she is resisting to take any action on her own behalf, so all you can do is seat there patiently, listening to the streams of complains, wishes and dreams that you know will never happen. You listen because you love your friend. But for that same reason, it hurts like hell and you go home with a [Read more.]

Naysayers, Haters, Mirrors and Messengers

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Jun 022015
 
Naysayers, Haters, Mirrors and Messengers

Reading Time: 13 minutes Naysayers, Haters, Mirrors and Messengers The other day I was watching a video by Jeff Walker. I love this person! He shines with authenticity and love, and he says it as it is. You can watch the video here. I warn you that this is a long post, but if you offer or want to offer your gifts to the world, or if you have been held back by the fear of criticism, I promise that it is worth your while to read. I agree with Jeff that one of the things that is holding many of us back is the fear of being rejected, judged, criticized and even “crucified” by others; especially by our loved ones ~but also by influential people or large groups. That fear of criticism is like a barb-wire fence that blocks many paths to success, especially among women and Spiritual Creatives. We all have been the victims of that horrific infestation: Gossip. We know what that does. It spreads like toxic gas even before you get to a place, and when you enter everyone is [Read more.]

6 Elements of Stressful Living: Day 6: Deadlines

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Mar 312015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living: Day 6: Deadlines

Reading Time: 4 minutes 6 Elements of Stressful Living and how to Live and Work Stress Free: Day 6: Deadlines This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here. Get Day 4: Judgment here. Get Day 5: Povertizing here.   If you know how long it takes you to do something, you have a delivery date. If you don’t know, lie to yourself or make yourself the prisoner of time, you have deadlines. The name says it all: by the time you finish, you are dead. Deadlines are a perception or interpretation of delivery dates that makes them artificial, aggressive, rigid and often downright insane. Few industries truly need this. Newspapers were one of the industries were deadlines were part of the trade, but even they are disappearing today. However, our entire culture has an addiction to deadlines and often creates unnecessary stress pushing towards these constructs. As we talked in Day 2 about Rushing, if you create good systems and manage your time well, you can honor delivery dates without [Read more.]

6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 5: Povertizing

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Mar 242015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 5: Povertizing

Reading Time: 4 minutes 6 Elements of Stressful Living and how to Live and Work Stress Free: Day 5: Povertizing This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here. Get Day 4: Judgment here.   Povertization is the act of creating the conditions by which a sector of a population –let’s say women– are and stay poor. Povertizing yourself as I use it in this series has to do with learned limiting beliefs that come out of your own early –or cultural– experience with money and that keep you from achieving financial freedom. It is one of the most powerful and pervasive forms of stress in one’s life and work. Povertizing is the secret denial of money, wealth and financial freedom that we embed in our priorities, choices, interpretations and practices. Povertizing may take the form of splitting what you love to do from how you earn your money, so that you have to work more to get money. It may take the form of not maximizing the income you can [Read more.]

6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 4: Judgment

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Mar 172015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 4: Judgment

Reading Time: 4 minutes 6 Elements of Stressful Living And how to Live and Work Stress Free: Day 4: Judgment This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here.   Judgment is the cousin of guilt and shame. It is the aunt of resistance and control addiction. It is sister to the dutifying of life. Judgment once came from your elders or culture. Now you internalized those voices, and you are constantly judging yourself and feeling inadequate or declaring yourself guilty. You add injury to this inadequacy by trying to control your results, your work or your life in order to make it look like you think it should be —which is usually the same as what you think that others think that it should be. The result is cheer misery. If there is one thing you should abolish in your life to be free, this thing is judgment. Stop judging yourself and you will soon stop judging others. Judgment is unnecessary and inefficient. It alienates but it does not explain, [Read more.]

Soul Hatching Meditation

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Jan 132015
 
Soul Hatching Meditation

Reading Time: 7 minutes My New Year’s Gift for you Soul Hatching Meditation   You have probably learned that it takes hard work to make your dream happen. You have come to believe that in order to fully embody the purpose for which you were born, you need to improve yourself in a variety of ways. As a result of this training every time you think of what you want to accomplish or who you want to be, a long list of to-dos and fix-me-ups runs through your mind. It may look something like this: First, I have to stop wasting time watching TV and use that time better. And I can’t go to sleep so late at night because I don’t have energy the next day. Once I do that… Oh, yes, and I must stop getting angry at every little frustration. I need to learn more patience. And how about my technophobia? Until I get better at using technology, I won’t really be able to do what I want. Not to mention my neediness. I must stand stronger and let go of [Read more.]

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