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Jan 182016
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Is this you?

Do you hurt for your friend like this?

When women repel success

cover-bless-success-bk1-deserve-success-6X9X120Every few months I meet her and the minute she sees me her eyes light with a paradoxical mix of hope and desperation.

As she walks towards me I ask myself “Will this be the time?”

She barely says hi. She dives into a stream of complaints. You know that string. That’s how your friend goes on and on about what she really, really wants to do instead of the boring or grueling job she now has.

You hear it every time you gals meet. You try to help her, but any suggestion you give is met with a “Yes, but…”

After a while you get it that she is resisting to take any action on her own behalf, so all you can do is seat there patiently, listening to the streams of complains, wishes and dreams that you know will never happen.

You listen because you love your friend. But for that same reason, it hurts like hell and you go home with a broken heart.

If that has happened to you, then you know exactly how I feel as she talks in that desperate, out of breath voice.

It is urgent. Her heart tells her it is urgent. But her mind comes up with all kinds of excuses.

The battle never stops. When she is doing her routine job she is grieving for the life she is not living. She is mourning the dream that is dying every minute as she foregoes it in order to “make a living.” But she knows deep in her soul that this is more like making a slow dying.

It’s not that she is at a 9 to 5 job. That’s not really the problem, though that is what she tells herself and what she tells me.

But the pain runs deeper.

It is the pain of a flower that never blossoms, a fruit that cracks before it matures. It is the pain of a being that is fading out of her nature, her purpose.

And here’s what she does. Let me know if your friend does this too:

She gets busy.

Oh, my Goddess! Does she get busy! She goes to every activity of every friend, peer and associate. She goes out of her way to do a great job; so much so that the institution for which she works takes advantage of her and takes her for granted. She does more and gets paid less.

She knows this. She complains bitterly about it. But she does nothing to change it.

So you ask yourself: “What’s going on? Why doesn’t she take action to do what she wants? Why doesn’t she demand what she is worth? Why does she bleed her time and energy in the job that she says does not make her happy and leaves none to doing what she loves? Why does she DO stuff to distraction instead of using that time and energy to create the life and work she really wants to do?”

But you are not through asking yourself these painful questions when she is already waving her hand to go meet someone else, talk some more, do lots more and bleed her life away.

It hurts.

It hurts me to watch this amazing woman running in circles to avoid her True Self. It hurts you to see your friend running in place, like a hamster in its wheel. And it hurts her beyond what she may even be willing to admit.

  • So why doesn’t she stop it?
  • Why do so many women spend their lives bleeding their life force for others while avoiding their own dreams and happiness?
  • Why do so many of us find it so hard to do what we love?
  • Why do we complain and suffer pain, but never paint the picture we want to live with our choices, actions and energy?

To answer that question, I am writing a series of books call “Bless your Success: Reclaim your Authority to BE the Success you Want”

The first book of that series is already out.

You can buy it at Gumroad, my secure online store here:


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One more thing…

If you have such a friend… forward this article to her. Or purchase this book as a gift. Go to my store and in the purchase order, hit the gift icon. You will be able to send the gift to your friend’s email with a personalized message.

And if you ARE such a friend, reply to this email if you want a 30 minute courtesy call with me to find out how you can stop bleeding your life force and start living your brilliance now.

 From my Magical Heart to your Beautiful Soul,

Maria Mar

The Dream Alchemist

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About Maria Mar

Maria Mar is a Sacred Storyteller and shaman who champions you to change your old limiting story to create the new story of your brilliance illuminating the world. She helps you awaken your magic, express your creative genius, embody your purpose and live your potential now.

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