Mar 172015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 4: Judgment

6 Elements of Stressful Living
And how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 4: Judgment

This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here.

 
Judgment is the cousin of guilt and shame. It is the aunt of resistance and control addiction. It is sister to the dutifying of life.
Judgment once came from your elders or culture. Now you internalized those voices, and you are constantly judging yourself and feeling inadequate or declaring yourself guilty.
You add injury to this inadequacy by trying to control your results, your work or your life in order to make it look like you think it should be —which is usually the same as what you think that others think that it should be. The result is cheer misery.

If there is one thing you should abolish in your life to be free, this thing is judgment. Stop judging yourself and you will soon stop judging others. Judgment is unnecessary and inefficient. It alienates but it does not explain, solve or change anything.

Judgment may take the form […]

Mar 102015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 3: Dutifying

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 3: Dutifying

 
This is a series of 6 articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here.

 

Dutifying is about binding life in duty.
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In any job or task, there are aspects you may not like but you need to do.
Writing is my passion, but I need to do proofreading and formatting before the book is ready for press. Sometimes I can delegate it, but sometimes I can’t.
But when you forgo pleasure, intuition, joy and peace to attach yourself to a sense of duty created by others; then you are your own oppressor. You are creating constant stress that sips into the very fiber of your being.
Dutifying make take the form of doing what others say you are supposed to do, even though you don’t like it or it may not work for you.
For example, I spent years learning how to be an entrepreneur, but the rules others were following did not seat well with me. I could see the sense on each rule. But […]

Mar 032015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living and how to Live and Work Stress Free: Day 2: Rushing

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 2: Rushing

 
This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here.

 
 
Rushing is about accelerating, multi-tasking, overworking and losing the joy and inner peace in an effort to “catch-up” with what you mentally decide should be done.
Rush is part of the rhythm of life. Even water sometimes rushes forward. But rushing all the time, as a lifestyle or a workstyle not only creates stress but steals the joy of life and robs your of inner peace.

We often rush because we live putting out fires, in emergency mode.
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This leaves out little time for strategy, project management or to do things calmly in due course. If this sounds familiar, you need a better workflow and time management system.
Another reason for rushing is that we are comparing ourselves to others and try to “beat them to the punch.” As in the first element in this series, pushing, ~rushing is frequently the result of the inappropriate or ineffective use of the aggressive force.
A final, deeper reason […]

Feb 242015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living and how to Live and Work Stress Free: Day 1: Pushing

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free
Day 1: Pushing
Pushing is about forcing yourself to meet deadlines, to overwork, to do more than you can or to do what you don’t want to do.
Unless you are referring to a shopping cart, pushing is not the way to roll.

Pushing injures the fabric of life.
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Have you tried to cut a piece of fabric or wood against the grain? Everything shatters. You have to put more effort for a lesser quality of result. Pushing is going against the grain of your being or against the grain of life or of a situation.
Unless it’s the moment when the baby shows the crown of its head, if you feel compelled to push in a situation, you are probably using excess force.

Aggressiveness is highly overrated.
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There is some effort needed in certain moments to break inertia; but other than that, moving along the grain accomplishes better results faster.
If you feel that you have to push, one or more of these things may be going on:

You […]

Feb 162015
 
Check out my New Year's Miracle!

Check out my New Year’s Miracle!
 
Happy New Year! Happy Self-love Day! Happy Valentine Day!
and very happy, extraordinary magical Miracle Day!
I’ve been rather quiet these holidays because I gave myself a resting retreat until mid January. Then I gave myself a writing and rehearsing retreat to start the year fresh and doing what I love most. I needed to fill myself with the joy of doing what I love in order that my light could overflow and shower you all year through.

I want to share with you the miracle that I received just at the start of this New Year, to give you living proof that your intentions resonate in the universe and become material expressions, attracting that in which you place your attention.

I call this your Miracle Days, when things you want, envision or imagine show up in little or big ways to boost your belief.

Every Christmas, I meet with a couple of old friends and we dive deeply into what our Soul desires. Then we help each other refine and express our New Year resolution based on that Soul […]

Jan 132015
 
Soul Hatching Meditation

My New Year’s Gift for you
Soul Hatching Meditation
 
You have probably learned that it takes hard work to make your dream happen. You have come to believe that in order to fully embody the purpose for which you were born, you need to improve yourself in a variety of ways. As a result of this training every time you think of what you want to accomplish or who you want to be, a long list of to-dos and fix-me-ups runs through your mind. It may look something like this:
First, I have to stop wasting time watching TV and use that time better. And I can’t go to sleep so late at night because I don’t have energy the next day. Once I do that… Oh, yes, and I must stop getting angry at every little frustration. I need to learn more patience. And how about my technophobia? Until I get better at using technology, I won’t really be able to do what I want. Not to mention my neediness. I must stand stronger and let go of my need to be […]