Feb 042012
Self-love: is Wikipedia right?

Reading Time: 3 minutes What is self-love? Wikipedia describes self-love this way: Self-love is the strong sense of respect for and confidence in oneself. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-love) Respect? Confidence? Is it the same to respect a person as to love them? I don’t think so. The same applies to the self. Respecting yourself is a sign that you value yourself. But this does not necessarily means that you love yourself.  Self-love is a feeling, not a value. Is being confident about someone’s behavior or ability the same as loving them? No again. What wikipedia describes is self-esteem, not self-love. And the difference, while subtle, is at the core of self-empowerment and self-fulfillment. How is self-love different from self-esteem? Many of us believe that we are OK because we have a good self-esteem. What this often means is that we “know” that we are valuable and that what we do is good.We know it because we have a sense of the value of our talents and skills. We may have had experience in the past of helping others. We have received positive feedback. We may have gotten [Read more.]

Sep 142010
Why can't I get motivated?

Reading Time: 6 minutes Why can’t I get motivated? By Maria Mar(c)2010 “Why can’t I get motivated?” Elizabeth asked me. There are two different scenarios for depleted motivation: temporary and chronic. I’ll cover the first one in this blog and the second one in a second blog, so stay tune. (Subscribe to this blog to get my weekly articles. Click the button to the upper right corner.) Here’s the list of probable issues that are causing your de-motivation. To see the solutions, see the second section, below. Temporary lack of motivation If you are suffering from a temporary lack of motivation, then you are usually motivated, but find yourself in a motivational slump. Here are the causes that may be causing this slump. 1. Overwork. If you are burn-out, your body is depleted of energy. Your momentum slows down and your motivation suffers. 2. Taking too many ineffective actions. When your actions do not bring results, there is no renewal to the emotional energy you are using to generate them. Lack of results is like lack of food. 3. Plans and goals are not [Read more.]

Aug 122010
How are you stuck?

Reading Time: 3 minutes Hello beautiful sisters and brothers, If your Fairy Godmother showed up right now at your door and said: “Ring!” (That’s the doorbell, not the Fairy Godmother. You open the door and THEN she says: “They sent me here because you’ve been complaining that you are stuck. So here I am, at your service. What do you want in order to get unstuck?” Smart Alec that you are, you are ready to reply “Solve all my problems,” but she stops you before you open your mouth. “Don’t get too smart. You should know better than trying to circumvent the inter-dimensional rules of the Convention on Fairy Non-intervention on Free Will for Humans!” At this point, your head starts spinning. What is she talking about? “That old genie stuff of granting three wishes is illegal right now, as it disempowers you and cuts off the flow of the Law of Attraction by interfering with your internal process. But you can engage my help for vision, insights, knowledge, detachment, release and anything else in which I can help you to fulfill your free [Read more.]

Mar 162010
Art, Poem and invitation to Celebrate Women's History Month 2010

Reading Time: 4 minutes Cannot see the graphics? See web version A poem, art and invitation to celebrate the closure of Women’s History Month Discover your Untapped Possibilities Break the Fences in your Mind No. 1 of the Break Free from What Holds you Back Online Event Series with Maria Mar FOR WOMEN ONLY Endless Possibilities They rush by at the speed of light. Invisible. Inaudible. A flash. Almost a memory. And they are gone. I could not see them before. They were like crazy cars bumping against my choices. Derailing my desires. But I neither heard nor saw them, though they were jamming the pathways of my mind. There were other forces in that secluded mindscape. They sat there, like fences. Doing nothing but blocking the view. I did not see those either. They showed up, however. When I tried to see the beauty just beyond my reach. The colors of a landscape for which my Soul longed so much it hurt. The crazy cars and the fences kept my mind racing inside stagnation, while I drove my will like a madwoman, trying [Read more.]

Sep 012009

Reading Time: 8 minutes Last week a visitor asked the following question: “I just found your site and appreciate what you have on here. I a network marketer, but haven’t yet experienced the success I want in it. Your obsession vs focus interview is great for me and something I will keep mulling over. I am looking for direction in building belief in myself and my business. I hesitate to talk to others about it because I think, they have a good job, or good business, why would they want this or listen to me. I do think I have a unique (better) business plan, and products. So I think it must rest in my belief in me. Suggestions?” DREAM ALCHEMIST’S ANSWER: Starting today and for a year, consider yourself on a Journey of Success. This quest is not a race. Observe that I did not call it a Journey TO Success, but a Journey OF Success. It is not even a project. It is an adventure, an expedition. In this exciting journey, you want to enjoy the landscape. You want to visit its [Read more.]

Jul 102009
Are you swimming an emotional marathon?

Reading Time: 6 minutes I posted this tip in my Dream Alchemist Daily Tips Section: “Do you feel exhausted after doing something emotionally challenging, like walking through fear or breaking a habit? The action might have been simple, like making a phone call. You may be thinking that it’s silly to be so tired. Be especially loving with yourself at this time. Rest and reward yourself. Swimming against the Emotional Undertow of old learned emotions uses more energy than swimming in a marathon.” I also posted it in my Facebook Update. Here are some of the answers I’ve gotten so far: “Thank you so much. I feel like you read my mind, it is very difficult to say no to people who have been using me for years, just the fear of saying no has been very difficult and exhausting, but after the storm I feel much better and respect myself much more.” “YES. This is so what I needed to read today. It’s hard to move on sometimes, past the bad habits.” This brings up a couple of questions about emotional breakthrough, and [Read more.]