Celebrating Women’s History Month
What I wish my mother
had told me about being a woman
I’ve been wandering about the things I’ve learned in my life that my mom did not teach me because she herself did not know. Today I’m sharing the 4 Secrets on Female Power that I want all my sisters to know deep in their heart and fully embody each day. The first secret is this: YOU ARE ENTITLED!
This is a series on the Secrets of Female Power for Women’s History Month, at the rate of one per week. This is the first article. Read the others here:
- Women’s History Month-From Appearance to Experience
- Women’s History Month-Heart-based Female Leadership
- Women’s History Month-Wearing your Unique Gifts
- The Goddess Circle
Secret of Female Power No. 1
You are entitled to be the protagonist in your own life. You have a right to be, to be happy and to fulfill the life purpose for which you were created. You have the right to grow into your full potential.
If I’d have a dollar for every time that I’ve met a woman whose core problem was that she secretly lack entitlement, I’d have gather a million dollars or more… and that legacy does NOT enrich our lives!
Modern women, female leaders, powerful, brilliant, intelligent women today in the Western modern cities are being strangled by the millions for lack of ENTITLEMENT.
“I am an intelligent and resourceful person” a woman wrote to me recently. “Is it limiting beliefs or lack of knowledge that keeps me from opening my business? How do I go from where I am to where I want to be?”
As you can see, this woman is smart. She knows how to do internet research. She’s probably taken lots of free business teleseminars and possibly a few paid courses. She is ready, willing and eager. What is keeping her from “putting herself out there” is fear. But is not just your regular fear. Is the fear mixed with guilt that comes from centuries of being told, on the threat of death or destitution, that you are not ENTITLED to have a life.
Women are still feeling guilty if they place themselves first. They are filling guilty, conflicted, stressed-out and penalized if they start their business, give priority to their dreams or give themselves time and space.
When I was growing up, I was taught that I did not deserve time and space and that it was selfish for me to give priority to my own dreams and joy. How? Simple. Every time I was doing something I enjoyed, I’d be ordered to “do something useful.” Anything. Do something. Be of use. Go get that can of tomato at the store. Sweep that dirt. Help your grandma. But I WAS doing something! I was reading, resting or dreaming. So I learned that what I wanted to do, what brought me joy and what allowed me to take time to be and to connect with Divine Source or with my own Soul and its Dream –all that was 1)doing nothing, 2)useless and 3) selfish. The only thing that gave me value was to do things for others, things that were needed, domestic things… not BIG things like the ones I’d be dreaming about.
If you have girls, make sure that they are ENTITLED. Protect their time and space, their privacy, their time to dream, protect their BIG dreams. Encourage them to fully embody their purpose and let them know that they deserve to succeed without sacrificing themselves in the name of love, goodness, motherhood or wifehood. Let them know that their life and presence matters by itself, not in function of what they do for others in domestic roles.
Continue reading Secret Number 2 here, for the second week of Women’s History Month.