Is the first part of your life determining the rest of your life? You may be shocked to know that for millions of people, this is the norm.
Traumas like sexual abuse, violence in the family, alcoholism or orphanhood may leave such deep prints that we as children define our Identity by these episodes.
The problem is that Identity is the deepest layer in our subconscious. The Reticular Activating System won’t let through any new information into your subconscious mind if it contradicts your self-perceived identity. This means that you won’t be able to make the changes, new habits and new choices you want to make, because they don’t match the hidden (traumatized) identity you still have of yourself.
Many of us believe that we do not play the victim role because we are tough, independent, educated, leaders or conscious of our choices. But if our identity is still defined by past traumas, we are probably playing the victim role in those areas, without even realizing it.
What can you do?
Shake it off!
You need three consistent practices:
- Self-love: Where there is unconditional self-acceptance without judgment, there cannot be shame or self-blaming.
- Track down your blind spots: When you witness your Blind Spots, Toxic Fields and Breaking Points, you begin to detach from them and you can then observe when your choices and expectations are inherited and incongruent with your values.
- Assume the responsibility of what you’ve created and take an active role in changing it. When you develop a lifestyle in which you recognize your steps in the dance of life and you assume responsibility for the consequences of your choices and actions, you become an empowered being. Your Victim Stance cannot exist in the same place as your Co-creator Self, so it fades away.
The longer you sustain these three practices, the more they become part of you, until your Primary Identity has changed without you even realizing it. You are no longer trapped in the identity you inherited from your early traumas. You are now the master creator of your life.
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