Mar 312015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living: Day 6: Deadlines

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 6: Deadlines

This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here. Get Day 4: Judgment here. Get Day 5: Povertizing here.

 
If you know how long it takes you to do something, you have a delivery date.
If you don’t know, lie to yourself or make yourself the prisoner of time, you have deadlines.
The name says it all: by the time you finish, you are dead.

Deadlines are a perception or interpretation of delivery dates that makes them artificial, aggressive, rigid and often downright insane.

Few industries truly need this. Newspapers were one of the industries were deadlines were part of the trade, but even they are disappearing today.

However, our entire culture has an addiction to deadlines and often creates unnecessary stress pushing towards these constructs.

As we talked in Day 2 about Rushing, if you create good systems and manage your time well, you can honor delivery dates without creating stress pushing yourself to meet deadlines.
But if you […]

Mar 242015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 5: Povertizing

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 5: Povertizing

This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here. Get Day 4: Judgment here.

 
Povertization is the act of creating the conditions by which a sector of a population –let’s say women– are and stay poor.
Povertizing yourself as I use it in this series has to do with learned limiting beliefs that come out of your own early –or cultural– experience with money and that keep you from achieving financial freedom. It is one of the most powerful and pervasive forms of stress in one’s life and work.

Povertizing is the secret denial of money, wealth and financial freedom that we embed in our priorities, choices, interpretations and practices.

Povertizing may take the form of splitting what you love to do from how you earn your money, so that you have to work more to get money.
It may take the form of not maximizing the income you can get from what you do.
It may also be seen […]

Mar 172015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 4: Judgment

6 Elements of Stressful Living
And how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 4: Judgment

This is a series of six articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here. Get Day 3: Dutifying here.

 
Judgment is the cousin of guilt and shame. It is the aunt of resistance and control addiction. It is sister to the dutifying of life.
Judgment once came from your elders or culture. Now you internalized those voices, and you are constantly judging yourself and feeling inadequate or declaring yourself guilty.
You add injury to this inadequacy by trying to control your results, your work or your life in order to make it look like you think it should be —which is usually the same as what you think that others think that it should be. The result is cheer misery.

If there is one thing you should abolish in your life to be free, this thing is judgment. Stop judging yourself and you will soon stop judging others. Judgment is unnecessary and inefficient. It alienates but it does not explain, solve or change anything.

Judgment may take the form […]

Mar 102015
 
6 Elements of Stressful Living-Day 3: Dutifying

6 Elements of Stressful Living
and how to Live and Work Stress Free:
Day 3: Dutifying

 
This is a series of 6 articles. Get Day 1: Pushing here. Get Day 2: Rushing here.

 

Dutifying is about binding life in duty.
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In any job or task, there are aspects you may not like but you need to do.
Writing is my passion, but I need to do proofreading and formatting before the book is ready for press. Sometimes I can delegate it, but sometimes I can’t.
But when you forgo pleasure, intuition, joy and peace to attach yourself to a sense of duty created by others; then you are your own oppressor. You are creating constant stress that sips into the very fiber of your being.
Dutifying make take the form of doing what others say you are supposed to do, even though you don’t like it or it may not work for you.
For example, I spent years learning how to be an entrepreneur, but the rules others were following did not seat well with me. I could see the sense on each rule. But […]

Mar 062015
 
Dreamtime Story:  Toxins and Violence in the Psyche

Dreamtime Story:
 
Toxins and Violence in the Psyche
Author’s Note: This is a stirring, yet real story that took place at two dimensions: DreamTime and real time in my life during the past week. I share it with you because it’s a powerful experience of how toxins become anger, chaos and violence in our psyche. It also lets us know how the universe is in constant dialogue with us and how our body can help us heal our psyche.

Murder, She Wrote: Gas Poisoning in the Reel and the Real
My studio is adjacent to the kitchen. I don’t have a TV and when I want some television or video entertainment I watch Netflix in my computer.
Last week I was watching (again) a rerun of “Murder, She Wrote.” I like good detective movies, but except for this one, all the ones done in the USA have stressful elements, such as lots of violence, car chases and explosions and unnerving music. I do not watch TV like that —especially late in the evening— because I’ve noticed that the vibrational frequency this type of violent stimulus […]

Dec 092014
 
ARTspiration No. 28: Your BodySoul Zone

Artspiration No. 28:
Your BodySoul Zone
 

“BodySoul=the zone where your body speaks for your soul.” Maria Mar

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